Sports championships, trophies, popularity, awards, prizes, first place, gold medals, and titles are all terms we associated with winning. Growing up I was told “if I don’t win, you might as well not play the game.” For a long time I believed that until I saw the drawbacks of such thinking. Because I had such thought process, I was afraid of challenges especially if the odds were high.
To sum it all up, I was defeated before trying.
A message like that makes a child feel in order to try something or do anything worthwhile, there has to be some type of prize attached at the end. What happens when the child becomes an adult and face real world challenges? Two things can happen. They will either shut down if they think don’t have a huge advantage of winning or they will accept mediocre opportunities because it’s something they can win at. The later is more harmful because they will never reach their fullest potential.
Life isn’t always giving us a pat on the back for a job well done but it doesn’t mean we are losing.
When you look at social media postings you see comments made about losing teams (or certain players thereof) or people who have been deemed “unpopular” in the eyes of society. Winning has nothing to do with prizes and accolades. Winning is about finishing the race and making progress. Losing only counts when there’s no effort. Even if you try something and it doesn’t work doesn’t make you a loser. You just learned what not to do the next time around.
Have you ever had narrow thinking when it comes to winning? Feel free to leave a comment below.
Lesson learned #7: Winning is about staying and finishing the course; Accolades are a bonus!